Letting Go

We have all been through difficult times and have people or issues from our past that may still be influencing us emotionally or mentally today.  Below is a process that can help address these emotions and clear any blockages, allowing us to move on.


Begin by identifying the top three traumas or emotional situations you want to let go of along with the people involved. By letting go I mean transmuting the emotions into energies that can be dissipated. You will always have the memory but the emotional charge with it should be eliminated or, at the very least, reduced considerably.

So, let’s say you have three people or issues you want to work with.

Find something physical that represents the person/issue you are working with, ideally something from nature. Keep this item with you when you follow the below process. You will be letting this object go too, so make sure you are ok with that.

This first step is similar to the Hawaiian process, Ho’opono pono, but a rather more distilled version.

Firstly, find a safe and private space to “work” in (I call any spiritual and emotional healing or releasing work). Make sure you will not be interrupted. You can do this anywhere but, ideally, you should be sat at a table, preferably wooden.

Imagine and feel the person sitting opposite you. If it is an issue and not a person, visualise the issue or yourself as you were during the issue, sitting opposite.

Say to them (out loud or in your head),

“I’m sorry.

Please forgive me.

Thank you.

I love you”

Do this slowly, concentrating upon and feeling each sentence.

“I’m sorry.” Feel repentance even if you know you were not at fault. Take responsibility for what happened. Somewhere guilt sits between you and the other person. Maybe you are clearing for both of you. If it is a situation, let any remorse take over you. Let any tears flow or sobbing come forth. Even curl up on the floor if that’s where the pain sends you. This is your time to release. Do whatever it takes to let it out from your body. Tapping the throat, heart or belly will help any release.

“Please forgive me.” This shows humility. Again, even if you are convinced it was not your fault, take the higher ground. And again, most definitely feel this. Forgiveness clears the past. You are also asking for forgiveness for yourself at the time. Perhaps for putting yourself in that particular situation. Spiritually we are children. We are allowed and meant to make mistakes; they help us grow.

“Thank you.” Be in deep gratitude. For the person, for the situation that has helped you grow, for the lessons learnt, for being you, and for being able to take this step.

“I love you.” Say this to the person or the issue, and send as much love as possible out into the Universe. Realise that by saying this, you are saying that you love yourself too. Accept this love back for yourself.

It may also be helpful if you can ‘see’ (in your mind) the other person and notice how they react when you say each of the above sentences.

When finished, blow any residual emotions, feelings or energies into the object and rub it on your body to draw out any further negativity. Find somewhere to throw it away where it will be lost, even if just in the dustbin. Do not throw it at someone, into a neighbour’s garden or where it can be found easily. Throwing it into the undergrowth, a quarry, a forest, a river, a lake or the sea are all good examples.

Do this for each of the people/issues you want to release energetically.

When you feel you have finished, spend some time in gratitude for what you have just accomplished and ensure you feel grounded before carrying on with your day.



Healing Beats

Life would mean very little without beats and rhythms From the cycle of our constant breathing or the pulse of an infectious dance beat, to the circadian rhythm of our 24hr internal clock or the changing of the seasons, as planet Earth keeps its regular orbit around our star.

Beats and rhythms are everywhere. Starting in the womb, surrounded by fluid, the mother’s heartbeat is the soundtrack to the first nine months of our lives. This rhythmic sound is so comforting and familiar that new parents use it to help their little one sleep, made evident by the number of womb sound videos available online.

Our heartbeat is a valued ally throughout our life. Letting us know when we are scared or startled by wanting to jump out of our chest, pumping hard to prepare us for fight or flight. Becoming a calming focus for our mind when drifting into meditation. Fluttering when meeting someone we love – and seemingly stopping or breaking when we have to let them go. We hear it beating in our ears when we overexert ourselves, telling us to slow down. And then, finally, when the beat stops, our time is up.

So, look after your heart as best you can. It is your connection to the rhythm of life.

Much love, Trevor.

“what is”

I have always trusted science and the proofs and truths it has afforded me through my education. However, through my spiritual work, I now understand that science does not explain everything. In time, its envelope will increase to encompass what is currently unclear, such as the quantum world, the human brain, consciousness, black holes, dark matter, etc., and maybe even some spiritual techniques. But it will always be a subset of what humanity (or some of humanity) already know, and this, in turn, is just a part of “what is” or how things are (see below pdf). Gravity, for example, was never discovered. It has always been there doing its thing. Perhaps other forces are there too, just waiting to be detected, measured and recognised by science. Maybe some of them can be felt and used in healing. Perhaps there have always been people using these forces or energies to help others.

Shamans think so.

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